My family and friends think I'm cheap.And they're right. I'm cheap.
I don't buy a lot of gifts for people. I've been known to make things, draw pictures, give "interactive gifts" like a dinner out... with me.
I don't know where the impulse comes from... whether it's really thrift at heart, or whether I've got some deep inner sense of what a "gift" is that has to do with the human exchange of something precious, something valuable.
Probably the best vision of this kind of giving I can think of is O. Henry's famous story, "Gift of the Magi." I won't give the ending away, but it certainly changes forever the way you think about giving.
So for some time, I've felt sick around Christmas. I don't know if living in New York, with all of the commercialism in our faces at street level, is better or worse than living in the 'burbs where you have to take a trip in your ve-hicle to a great exurban sprawling mall to stock up on gifts. My sense is that both suck... the life out of you.
I know that some people find joy in holiday shopping. My dad used to love buying toys and gadgets for my brother and me. Others love the thrill of the hunt for the perfect gift. But I think the surface excitement of Christmas shopping masks the disease that consumption has become in our culture. Buying things has become an emotional outlet--a sad and ephemeral way of expressing meaning. But if O. Henry was on to one thing, he was on to the idea that gift-giving is about giving one thing that embodies our connection to the recipient of our gift. Too often, in our culture of abundance, we give one another irrelevant, useless stuff... stuff that clogs closets and eventually landfills, and drains our wallets of money that could--and dare I say should--be used to give vital, life-giving gifts to our loved ones and to strangers.
This is why I'm excited about the movement called Advent Conspiracy. It's tagline is "restoring the scandal of Christmas by replacing consumption with compassion. It has the chance for me to bring my congregation together into a new way of thinking and acting this Christmas.
I have to admit, I think that some folks are going to hate it. They're not going to get what Advent Conspiracy is all about... and they're going to feel judged. Which is how any of us feels when people first point out to us the foolishness of our ways.
But I'm going to encourage that we sign on, even if in a small and partial way. The consumptive Christmas is dead. Something else is waiting to be born... whether we're there to greet it or not is in our hands...
I have not listened to your sermon on the conspiracy yet. I will. I should not comment but I am moved to.
ReplyDeleteI like getting gifts, and I like giving them. Going out and purchasing the perfect gift for a loved one, going to buy the wrapping paper and wrapping it just so with a big bow, and then handing it to the person....watching your loved ones eyes light up as they see exactly what they wanted in that box makes my heart smile.
I don't think it makes me a cruel, or materialistic person because I like to make my loved ones happy with gifts. Of course giving to the poor, and helping to make sure people who are less fortunite get access to shelter, and jobs and food so they can have a decent life is important. Jesus wants us to do that...but I refuse to believe I am a selfish person because I like to buy people things. I am not saying that you are claiming that is the case, but I just had to say this.